My Mind is in Chaos, Tiffany. What Do I Do?
Your mind is your greatest ally.
Yes, really.
I know…I’ve spent over 10 years in the self-help space, and the more I became aware of my thoughts and the internal battles inside my mind, the more I came to believe my mind was my enemy.
I had a running dialogue that my thoughts were my enemy, that because of trauma and challenging life experiences, my mind was split into all these different parts battling for dominance, constantly afraid, trying to keep me safe, but instead keeping me trapped.
And PMDD in perimenopause took that internal war and turned it up to 10.
Until recently, when things got so dark, so terrifying inside my own mind that I found a new level of determination to shift whatever was necessary to finally end the war.
During a deep meditation and energy healing, my soul dropped this truth into my consciousness:
“My mind is my greatest ally.”
And then I felt it. I put myself in my mind as I’ve done thousands of times before and this time…peace.
This new truth settled in and I felt it changing everything.
I thought to myself, “What if I just lived this way, believing my mind is my greatest ally? What could happen for me? This feels completely different.”
And only through allowing that truth to drop in and become my new reality could I start to see the depths to which I had believed it’s opposite, and how that belief had itself been keeping me at war … with myself.
No, I don’t expect you to be able to adopt this new reality as your own right away.
Oftentimes a process is necessary - a path to arriving at a truth in such a way that it fully integrates into your conscious mind and your feeling body. It becomes part of your new reality, shifting your frequency and launching you onto a new timeline.
What is that process?
It looks different for everyone, but let’s get down to the first level of the game.
Level 1
Open your journal and write what’s going on in your mind right now. What are you currently believing? What are the thoughts that run on repeat?
How do those thoughts make you feel? Name the emotion, not the story. Sadness. Fear. Grief. Shame. One or two words, max.
This step is vital. It activates the reciprocal relationship between the amygdala and the prefrontal cortex, turning on your thinking, logical brain and downgrading the primal, fear-based part of the brain that keeps us spinning.
It might help to remember: Name it to Release it.
Now, write down what actions come from believing those thoughts? This step is optional, and will help you identify exactly how your thoughts are manifesting into your lived experience.
This doesn’t have to be a comprehensive list of every thought, but the vast majority of our thoughts are ones we’ve had on a loop for a long time, continuing to run the same program. Imagine reading the same chapter of a book over and over, never flipping the page over to the next chapter…this is what it’s like in most of our minds when allowed to run unchecked.
So, get clear on what you’re hearing in there.
Once you’ve got it, and can see how those thoughts make you feel and how they manifest into action, let’s move on to level 2.
Level 2
Decide which thoughts feel like ‘My mind is my greatest ally’, and which feel like, ‘My mind is my enemy.’
Once you’ve clearly identified the low vibe thoughts, here are 2 ways you can lower their impact (try one or both):
See if you can feel where the thought lives inside your head, then reach up with your hand and visualize gently grabbing hold of a thread, the thread of thought you want to remove.
Pull the thought out by moving your hand away, visualize the thread sitting on your hand, then blow it away like you would a dandelion gone to seed.
See it blowing away, straight up into pure light.
Repeat as necessary when you hear this thought come up. It’s not your enemy, it’s a thread, a frequency you can remove and replace.
Grab your journal once a day and write down any thoughts bothering you, are painful, or that repeat endlessly.
Move the energy of those thoughts out of your body by writing them down. Typing isn’t super effective here, but if that’s all you got, go for it.
Don’t let the thought live inside your mind rent free!
Once you’ve ‘emptied the vessel’, let’s move on to level 3.
Level 3
Close your eyes and place your awareness into your head, see it as an open cavernous space.
Allow the thought, “My mind is my greatest ally” to settle into the space your mind occupies.
Then see if you can still hear the painful thought, see if it’s frequency or emotion has changed.
Ask yourself: “What if I believed my mind was my greatest ally? Can I imagine believing it? What would that feel like? What would my thoughts be like?”
That’s it. It’s that easy.
This one thought can replace any number of positive thoughts, affirmations, or methods that feel like you’re trying to ‘lie yourself happy’.
You’ve probably tried these methods. I know I have…for years! They’re not bad, they just weren’t enough. And when I told myself affirmations that didn’t feel true, I was essentially lying to myself. But guess what? The brain knows when it doesn’t believe a thought, and so does your body!
Why does this one thought work so well, then?
Because deep down we know that if our mind is capable of being our worst enemy, it’s capable of being our greatest ally.
The very fact that it learned new, negative thoughts to repeat ad nauseum means it can learn a new, truthier truth.
Don’t let this be one more thing you try to be perfect and precious about. Just let it sink in. And if all you do is absorb and learn this one new belief…you’re going to be profoundly changed for the better.
You’re shifting the operating system from: “I don’t trust myself” to “I am capable of being my greatest friend and ally.”
And once your mind feels safe and supported, you’ll start to notice something powerful - you can actually trust yourself. I wrote more about what that looks like in real life here…
If this resonates, give it a try. And please, come back to let me know how it goes…your positive experience means everything to me!
I see you. I love you. You got this.
Tiffany
P.S. If it seems like all the chaos is outside you, like the whole world is collapsing, read this for an instant perspective shift.